Dating a pilot tips
Yes, there are still things we both have to take care of when he’s here (and changing out smoke detectors is not my favorite thing to do – always in the middle of the night, gaaaaahhh! Just because your pilot is gone doesn’t mean you have to stay cooped up for days.
) but the more I can cross off of our honey-do-together list, the better. Even going to the local park with your kids for a picnic, or on a bike ride, or (gasp! I recently hired some neighborhood teenage girls to watch my little one while my son was in school and got myself a pedicure.
We all know it takes time to get to that magical, mysterious level of great pay AND a great schedule. You can’t always schedule appointments and events when your pilot is home (and sometimes it doesn’t matter anyway if they get stuck somewhere), so having someone available to help watch the kids or swap meals with is a huge time-saver. Yes, you can schedule a hair appointment and leave your husband with the kids so you can feel halfway human again. Additionally, your kids pick up on your attitude and how you handle things. (Sneaky little buggers.) So model the type of attitude you want to see in your kids. But it’s also healthy to show your kids that life goes on and there are LOTS of fun things you can still do if Daddy is gone. Call me and I will drink with you, and we can laugh at how we think we have it all together.
Yes, you can have a girls’ night and hire someone to watch the kids. And keeping up with phone calls and Skype is a great way to stay connected. DON’T – Beat yourself up for not having a clean house, or looking perfect, or not having showered in 2 days, or making grilled cheese for dinner, again.
If I sat around at home and waited for my husband to take care of things, we would both go crazy.
I should know — I’ve been dating one for the last three years.Well, if your boyfriend is a pilot, this is almost never an issue.Most pilots alternate between a few days at home and a few days in hotels.This lifestyle is very different than what many are used to, and there are many who don’t understand (or won’t, no matter how many times you tell them that no, you don’t know where your husband is right this moment). The only person you should compare yourself to is who you were yesterday.Focus on what makes YOU happy, and keep doing whatever that is. If you haven’t already, check out my post on 10 Things You Should Know How To Do Without Your Husband. I love hearing from you, leave a comment below with what you think!