Dating someone whose divorce is not final
By Tracy Achen If you are thinking about dating during divorce ... You may think that you are free to start a new relationship once the decision is made to separate or divorce.
But it is wise to hold off on the dating scene until after your divorce is finalized for a number of strategic, legal, and emotional reasons.
Even if your husband has carried on numerous affairs during your marriage, he will not think that you are justified in seeing someone new at this time.
All he will focus on is that he has been wronged and will want to seek justice anyway he can.
It can look like you have questionable morals, even if you were the perfect wife during your marriage.
If you date, your boyfriend may be open to scrutiny To top it off, a really vindictive husband might consider suing your boyfriend for alienation of affection.
Not only will both you and your husband's conduct be scrutinized during a custody case, but also so will be the conduct of your boyfriend.
If he has a shady background, it will be used against you.
Dating during divorce can poison the spirit of cooperation and affect your life for a long time after the divorce is final (and possibly after your boyfriend is history).He may try to even the score by fighting about custody of the children or how to split the marital estate.If you have children, then you also need to realize that it's in your best interest to try to keep a cordial relationship with your husband.It can also have a big impact on whether or not you will receive alimony and how much you receive.This can even apply to temporary support order, because once again, you are sharing the expenses with someone else.